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[miz_anneliese]

On self-esteem:

Somedays I feel so crappy about the way I look that I can't even look at women with flat bellies and tiny bodies, because I know even if I worked out 24/7 I'd still never look like that.
It's rare that I get in moods like that, 'cause hey, I like looking at pretty women, and reducing the amount of time I do that isn't much fun ;)
It's really sad to me that somedays I understand where bulimia comes from, looking at it from purely the self-esteem angle. I hate puking and I love food, so both bulimia and its sister anorexia are out of the question for me, but at the same time... I have those moments where I understand.

Why is it so hard to just be happy with ourselves? Why is it that I can tell everyone I know and care for that I find them *beautiful* just as they are, but they don't believe me?

That's mostly rhetorical, btw. My psych minor isn't completely wasted.

Comments open, but please understand I'm not fishing for compliments.

Comments

[antichristie.livejournal.com]

Well, even if you don't want compliments, I am going to give you one. When I saw your pic I thought you were hot :D

Otherwise, rhetorically, I know what you mean. Body image is such a hard thing for us to deal with, very frustrating. I always notice that I don't look on the outside how I feel on the inside. It sucks.

[normanrafferty.livejournal.com]

Did I ever show you my art? ^.^

[heartflood.livejournal.com]

"It's really sad to me that somedays I understand where bulimia comes from, looking at it from purely the self-esteem angle. I hate puking and I love food, so both bulimia and its sister anorexia are out of the question for me, but at the same time... I have those moments where I understand."

I feel 110% completely and totally, exactly the same. Thanks for posting that. I thought I was the only one.

[scarybaldguy.livejournal.com]

I don't care if you want compliments or not. I've seen your photos, and I say you're smokin'. Besides, intelligence is *always* sexy. So there.

Joy of life (I could spell it in French if I wanted to :P )

[mzollo77.livejournal.com]

You know what's really stupid? It never goes away. Everyone told me that when you hit your fifties, the best part is you don't have all those self-image problems. They lied. You know what's really ironic? Most of us that are over-weight, (and I'm not going to be PC here----if you supersize your fast food 3 times a day, then you're going to be a pig and you need to put a little thought into living) are over weight because we're sensual and love the pleasures that come with being incarnate. We love good food, and good sex and good wine. So, who would a thinking person rather be with? A very skinny person who denies pleasure, or a lusty person who takes Big Bites? That's an easy question for me to answer, but I STILL look in the mirror and sigh..... I suppose the real problem is not the extra pounds, but the lack of activity. Toned and fit extra pounds are way more attractive than cottage cheesey extra pounds. But it's ever so much easier to just barf than to work out. I'm so glad you work out instead...:) I'm a computer potato, myself. Heh